LOSING WEIGHT...
How I lost over a thousand pounds and I
am STILL losing…!
All of us have a
tendency to be over indulgent.
We are gluttonous
with snacks, alcohol, and even people.
I had become obese with other peoples problems.
It was such a gradual
process that I didn’t notice until I couldn’t fit into my own life.
The buttons were
popping everywhere and I remained in denial.
I tried pills,
reduction diets, moving and exercising my rights but, no breakthrough.
As a matter of fact, I collected even more pounds of unwanted weight.
Then I came up with a
solution, a formula that would prove highly effective.
This worked for me and hopefully it can work
for you too!
TAKE AN INVENTORY
What kind of people are in your life? What demographic is
your closest friends, your closest family members and co-workers?
Are they successful? Not just financially, but in
relationships, and in other aspects of their life. Begin thinking of WHOM you
spend the most of your time with.
DETERMINE ACUTE AND
CHRONIC FRIENDS
Sometimes our friends go through seasons where they lean on
us more. These seasons are where we
are needed more than usual.
However, seasons are just that- SEASONS. They are not years
and in some cases, decades and so on.
When a friend is leaning on us and needing us longer than a
season they are a chronic friend. A
friend that is only experiencing a “true” season
is an acute friend.
You probably have already started a mental list of who is what in your mind. Good.
Go ahead and write it
down. Not on your blog or social media site but, on a piece of paper that you
can hide.
DETERMINE ASSET AND LIABILITY
FRIENDS
Asset Friends are people that lend us wisdom, laughter and
are the ones we call when we need someone. These are people that encourage us
and bring positive qualities into our lives. They deposit as much or more than
they withdraw.
Then there are ones who do just the opposite; the Liability
Friends.
They may even be positive in one area but not the other. These are the friends that come to your
birthday party and get into a fight with their spouse and call the police.
Also, the friends that are always broke and depend on your financial support.
They are a liability because the cause you risk.
TRIGGER FRIENDS
These are friends who may be asset friends but create an environment inside of you that promotes negative behavior or
actions.
For example, I had a very funny and positive girlfriend. She
was an amazing presence. But, for whatever reason every time she and I would go
anywhere, her drinking and late night hours would bring out my inner disco
ball. I would find myself drinking too much, staying out too late and being a
general ignorant fool.
She maintained
herself nicely, I however, not so much. So, therefore she was a trigger friend because of what I became
around her. All trigger friends are not necessarily ones to “lose” but rather
closely inspect the intensity of consequences you suffer because of this
trigger. If moderate to severe, “lose” this friend until you get YOU right.
Now that you have categorized all of the people in your
life, separate each one into a sub category of family and co-workers. These are
the people in your life you can not get rid of sometimes. However, you should,
like carbohydrates, limit.
LET GO
You look at your list you can see what is making you heavy.
Too much weight makes us unable to carry our own. We are
burdened down and lose the energy to stay focused and create our own positive
life.
We can not carry
people. We can, however, give them encouragement and support and should also
receive the same from them. If they offer nothing and take everything, it may
be hard, but begin distancing yourself and let them go.
As with anything, it is all about BALANCE.
Now, when it comes to your children that is another story.
Some say you “never
lose the baby weight”…
* NOTE*
If you read this and discover
you ONLY have “asset” friends- you
are not ONLY blessed but, YOU might
just be a “liability” friend.
Xoxo,
Missy
